My parents are celebrating 42 years of marriage this week, and though they’ve gone through all sorts of problems (if you know them, you know what I’m talking about), they have always been an example to me and to my husband. We are teachers of the Love School today because I got my degree from them, at home.

My childhood was a preparation for what I am and do today. My mother taught me lessons that became a gold chain around my neck; they never leave me. Many women consider these lessons outdated, but they worked for my mother and have worked for me and for many of my friends who consider her as their mother. 🙂

Today I’ll start talking about a priceless lesson that I’ve learned and I’ll leave the rest for the coming weeks:

Respect

It sounds obvious, as everyone already knows that respect is essential in a marriage, but unfortunately the reality is very different. Respect is what many marriages are lacking today, and women are mostly to blame. If on one hand feminism granted us freedom and rights, it also brought us this plague.

Many women want to butt heads with their husbands. They curse and scream, and have become aggressive. They think that in order to get what they want, they have to go down to lower levels. They do what they want without the slightest consideration for what their husbands think. They go out without letting their husbands know where they’re going. They’re totally independent of their husbands, but then complain that they do not participate in their lives. Come on! Give me a break.

My mother taught me that being respectful is part of my role as a wife. If I want my husband take care of me, I need to allow him to do so by showing my respect for his role as a leader.

You can say you want to be the leader, that this story of man being the head of the family is ridiculous, and that if you do not take the lead, no one will—it’s okay. I’m not here to change your way of thinking, but to show you what has worked for me and for all the women I know who are happily married.

The reason why there are so many absent husbands is because of the lack of respect at home. Their male (and female) friends are able to make him feel so much more of a man than you do… so don’t complain.