See previous posts (1), (2) and (3.)

Touching base on points 4 to 6 that were mentioned in the first post of the series, let’s consider the fear and apprehension that numerous men carry at the thought of being dominated by a woman. Since childhood, he was taught, sometimes by his own mother, that he shouldn’t let girls boss him around. He’s a man so he “can’t be some kind of barbie doll” to a woman. Then, when he eventually becomes a man, depending on the group of friends that he grew up around, this message will be all the more intensified. The bottom line is that men, for the most part, dread being seen as wimpy.

Putting aside the question of whether this thought has validation, let’s focus on how to deal with this mentality.

The wrong plan of action is to go head to head with your husband and openly want to control him, give orders, demand or insist on this or that. This attitude will only reinforce his belief. Men like this prefer divorce over bowing down before their wives. So, that will definitely not work, Rosilda. Fortunately, there is an alternative.

The truth is that many women don’t know that they have the power to control their husband’s without the use of force. They ignore the fact that a man is programmed to please a woman. By nature, men want the admiration and love of a woman. Her approval is very important to him. All you have to do is observe how men behave when a woman is near. Immediately their tone of voice, posture and attention changes – their behavior as a whole. This is in a man’s DNA.

So, the best thing a woman can do to get what she wants from her husband is to maintain feminine. Her supposed frailty and vulnerability, her apparent need for protection and guidance, and a dash of the feminine touch make it irresistible. If she knows how to transmit this, she can get anything she wants. (Let me clarify, I am not suggesting that you manipulate or act pretentious.)

The wise woman “plants” request in her husband’s heart in order to reap them later on. She’s patient for the seed to grow. And she knows how to water it with lots of love and sweetness.

When he least expects it, he will do what she asks – and clearly think it was his idea in the first place.

Compare:

1. (Head to head Rosilda): “You know you could watch The Love School. You may learn something about being a better husband; we have to do something about us. I’m tired of fighting for this relationship by myself.”
2. (Feminine Rosilda): “Honey, I was thinking of making a special lunch for you this Saturday. Then we can eat and watch The Love School together, if you want.”

Take note of the three magic words Rosilda uses at the end: if you want. The chances that he answers, “ok, sounds good” – or simply goes and turns on the TV on Saturday – are good. Then he will obviously think that the idea came from him. That’s better than the first option working out, the chances of that are zero.

The choice is yours.

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