I’ve been married for about 2 years. I’m always rushing; I work, go to school, do my wifely duties, etc… My husband dropped out of school and doesn’t have any life ambitions. I have to resolve everything; I’ve taken over both the man’s and the woman’s roles of the house. I’ve cheated on my husband with another man, but broke everything off to give it another try with my husband; after all I did get married to be happy. The only problem is that he takes me for granted. There is a guy that I met while I was dating my husband who has shown interest in me, but we’re only friends. He knows my husband and respects me. He loves me, appreciates me and wants to get married with me because I told him I wasn’t happily married and the truth is that I’m not. I don’t know if I love my husband or just like him. What should I do, divorce my husband and try to be happy or continue unhappily married just for appearance sake? Please understand that when I said I would divorce my husband it’s not because I want to get married with my friend. I don’t want him either. I want the perfect man that can make me happy. Please help me but don’t reveal my name, just call me friend.

Thank you and God bless. Teach me how to be happy.

This problem happens often because many people have put their passions over their reason. They’re in a rush to get married and end up compromising not only their future, but especially their children’s future, that have nothing to do with it. The result is abandoned children without the healthy guidance of both parents.

If you want to be happy, you must start with the Creator of happiness.

First, you must unconditionally surrender your life to the Lord Jesus Christ.

Second, abandon your wrong ways and,

Third, put into practice His directions written in the Holy Bible.

He says: “If anyone would come after Me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow Me.” This is where happiness begins.

Is it easy? No, it’s not. But your only other option is to reap a harvest of pain and fruitless sacrifice for the rest of your life. After all, who can do anything right in a hurry?

Let this example serve as a warning to everyone who’s in a hurry to get married at any cost.