“A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire; He rages against all wise judgment. ” — Proverbs 18:1

This proverb shows how voluntary isolation leads to selfishness. When people close themselves in their own world, reject wisdom, and prioritise only their interests, they contradict the divine nature.

God is not selfish

God, being self-sufficient, could have chosen to live alone. However, He decided to relate—He created the angels and humanity and revealed Himself as Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. This shows that the divine essence is to give, share, and love. Selfishness is the opposite of God.

When people isolate themselves, they avoid relationships, sharing, and giving. That is, they live only for themselves, which makes it difficult for them to live with. And the further away you go, the lonelier and emptier your life becomes.

A relationship is proof of love

Of course, there are times when we need to get away from bad company, but the Bible guides us to choose friendships well. But here, the focus is another: isolation motivated by selfishness.

Selfish people isolate themselves, avoid involvement, and interact only when there is self-interest. Consequently, people also gradually move away from them. After all, no one likes to live with those who only think about themselves.

This vicious cycle leads to emotional and spiritual isolation. Thus, the selfish dig their own hole of loneliness, and their end is sad. In fact, hell is described as a place of total separation—the pinnacle of selfishness. Therefore, those who choose to live only for themselves are already experiencing a preview of this on Earth.

Love is only proven in relationships

Loving your neighbour as yourself is a divine commandment. But how do we prove this love by living alone? We don’t need to tolerate, forgive or share without living together. And without that, love is still just a theory.

It’s in a relationship that we really learn who we are. Marriage, for example, reveals flaws that do not appear in our single life. Daily coexistence tests our character, patience and ability to love. Therefore, community life is a divine tool for spiritual growth.

The selfish has no relationship credit

If you only pursue your interests, you probably don’t invest in the relationships around you. And when you need help, maybe no one will reciprocate because you’ve never planted anything. Relationships are like emotional bank accounts: you need to deposit before withdrawing.

Think: how have you been treating close people? Do you isolate yourself from your parents, spouse, friends, and co-workers? Do you live in your own world, interacting only when there is something to gain?

Start changing: Plant generosity

So, instead of asking, “What can others do for me?” start asking, ” What can I do for them?”

“Give, and it will be given to you.” — Luke 6:38

“Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them.” – Matthew 7:12

This is the essence of Jesus’ teachings. When you start living like this, your life becomes lighter, full of purpose, and more pleasant in the eyes of God and people. The light of God begins to shine inside you – and also through you.

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