Challenge: Learn to be more of a gentlemen and less of a caveman.
Explanation: Let’s clarify one thing: men are naturally raw, insensitive and a little harsh. Sensitivity is not their forte. In a way, this is exactly what makes him a man, just like being feminine and delicate makes a woman a woman. But this doesn’t mean that our rough nature can’t be polished and refined so that we become good mannered men – all the while retaining our masculinity. Don’t worry, we don’t want to turn you into a metro-sexual. (That would get you kicked out of IntelliMen…)
What is chivalry? Basically it is when a man is conscious of others and treats them well, especially (but not exclusively) women. This week I want you to look for ways to practice being a gentleman through small gestures and habits. Here is a list of things a gentleman does:
I hope you do some of these things already. Go over this list and identify where you need to improve. Feel free to add things not on the list.
Notebook: Copy and paste the list above on how to behave like a gentleman in your notebook, for future reference.
Official Partner: Talk to your partner about what you currently do and what you need to do in order to be more of a gentleman.
Deadline: You may begin working on this task immediately and complete it before beginning Challenge #14. Spend one week on this. Obviously, you should make this task a part of your normal behavior. It will always benefit you.
IntelliMen Challenge #13 done: After working on being more of a gentleman… (Add your comments; mention what someone said if they noticed something you did.)
☐ I began to behave more like a gentleman and less like a caveman
☐ I copied the list to my Notebook
☐ I spoke to my Partner about the challenge
☐ I posted my comment on Facebook/Twitter
To make a fine gentleman, several trades are required, but chiefly a barber. – Oliver Goldsmith