No one believes the liar, even when he is telling the truth. Lying is possibly one of the most stupid behaviors. It doesn’t work — at times, even in the short run. Nevertheless, many still do it regularly.

There are two kinds of liars:

1. Those who lie out of fear. Whether by being embarrassed of the truth, by guilt, fear of being confronted or having to deal with the consequences, fear of losing assets, somebody’s friendship or love — these liars are those who lie when telling the truth would be much, much easier. Due to some issue within that has not been resolved, this fear is stronger than reason.
2. Those who lie as a form of operating. These ones deliberately deceive, with no remorse or restrictions, in order to accomplish their selfish goals. They know what they are doing. They are good at it. They are convincing and dangerous.

My advice is to run away from the latter and avoid the first. It is a big mistake to think that liars of the first kind are poor victims that will change with lots of love and patience.

Yes, change is always possible and I am the first one to believe in it. Yet, lots of love and patience will not bring the change about. Forgiving the liar and allowing him to feel as a victim will not help him. Their best shot to achieve this change is to suffer the consequences of their lies. This way, the pain, the loss, the shame, the humiliation and other forms of punishment that life itself brings upon liars may lead them to true repentance.

If you are in a relationship with a liar, stop everything. Resolve the lying issue first. There is no relationship wherever there are lies. Therefore, if left unresolved, the relationship may not successfully continue — Regardless of how many positive things exist despite the lies.

I repeat: There is no relationship wherever there are lies.

If you think there is, then you are lying to yourself.

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