In yesterday’s post on my blog, which you can read here, I said that one of the biggest reasons for your unhappiness are your dependence on others and your often dashed expectations of them.

When you are simply a natural person, subject to your emotions, what people do or don’t do for you can affect you very deeply. Your happiness and peace of mind are immediately affected by a betrayal, the loss of a loved one, a gossip, an injustice, a comment, an odd look, a letdown — or any other action that provokes your feelings.

That makes you a slave to people. You become their hostage. You can only be happy if they do according to what pleases you.

How to overcome this?

Think. Is it smart to trust in someone who is not trustworthy? Is it realistic to expect people to always do as you hope they will? Of course not. That’d be foolishness and fantasy.

So, as a result of this reasoning, you pull out your heart from the hands of people and put it in God’s hands — the Only One you can always trust to never disappoint you.

Some will say, “Yeah, depend only on God and on yourself – nobody else.” I would say that you can’t even depend on yourself, because you are just as fallible and unpredictable as others who disappoint you. Remember, you are flesh too.

You can only depend on yourself after your self learns to depend on God. Outside of that, it’s all sinking sand.

In short: Use your head and stop subjecting your happiness to others. Get to know God and put one hundred percent of your dependence on Him. The sum of these parts will result in your true independence of people.