Do you know the story of the husband and wife who went to the therapist to try to save their marriage? If you don’t know, I’ll tell you.

A couple, married for almost 20 years; he is a successful lawyer, she is an executive secretary; they have lived in a cold marriage. As a last attempt, they sought a famous therapist known for unorthodox methods.

Then, sitting in front of him, the therapist asked what was happening.
The husband answered first: he worked too much, had little time, his wife demanded attention, and he “couldn’t handle it.”

Then, when the therapist asked his wife, she collapsed: for more than a year, she hadn’t received a touch, a kiss, or a compliment. She was careful with her appearance, but her husband acted as if she were invisible.

The therapist was silent, got up, went around the table, took his wife’s hand, raised her, and… kissed her—a 30-second kiss. The husband watched without reaction.

When she finished, the therapist told her husband:

– Your wife needs this at least three times a week.

And the husband, in the most remarkable calmness, replied:

– Doctor, Tuesday and Thursday are difficult, but Monday, Wednesday, and Friday I can bring her here.

The real problem is not marriage

Although it serves as a warning for some couples, this story is about something else: the outsourcing of responsibility—and, mainly, the outsourcing of faith.

Just as the husband found it normal for someone to do for him what was his responsibility, many people do the same in their spiritual life. Instead of seeking God, they entrust their faith to mediators.

The danger of transferring your faith to others

Praying for others is not wrong: the Bible encourages this. However, the problem arises when others’ prayers replace their own.

When intercession becomes like a walking stick.

When intimacy with God is delegated.

Due to spiritual laziness, fear, or the false idea that someone “holier” has more access to God, many put people between themselves and God: a pastor, priest,
bishop,
prophet, apostle, guru, “mother of prayer,” or any other spiritual figure.

This behaviour is old. At the foot of Sinai, the people asked Moses:

Then they said to Moses, “You speak with us, and we will hear; but let not God speak with us, lest we die.” (Exodus 20:19)

The same pattern is repeated to this day.

Jesus came to end the outsourcing of faith

One of Jesus’ missions was precisely to eliminate mediators. When the veil was torn, the way to the Father was open. (Matthew 27:51)

He said:

“I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” (John 14:6)

If you know Jesus, you have direct access to the Father. Without the need for a “spiritual representative.”

Outsourced faith opens doors to scams

Many people fall into scams because, before being deceived by third parties, they were deceived by their own spiritual laziness. Like the woman who said, “Bishop, I met a pastor from Nigeria on the internet. He said he had revelations for me. I’ve already sent more than a hundred thousand reais, and now I see that it was a scam.”

Why did she fall for it? Because she preferred having someone “pray for her” rather than approaching God directly.

The biggest thief was not the scammer. It was the heart itself: lazy, selective, stubborn, and deaf to the truth.

The spiritual responsibility is yours

Reading the Bible, praying, going to church, seeking God—all this is your responsibility.

It’s easy to send a prayer request: type a name in the broadcast chat and send a bank transaction. It is difficult to do your part: to kneel, to listen to God’s voice, to practise faith.

Praying for others is a blessing, but we don’t create dependents. And if someone wants you to depend on them, “don’t do anything without consulting me”, run away! It’s a wolf. They are mercenaries. They don’t just want your money; they want to steal the main thing: your faith.

To put your faith in the hands of a mortal is to give to the thief what should be in the hands of God.

Watch the message above and understand why you can’t outsource your faith.

https://www.universal.org/renato-cardoso/post/o-beijo-do-terapeuta-falta-nocao-juizo-ou-vergonha-na-cara-mesmo/