The image from the text above is not an invention. It’s a message that was recently posted on Twitter by someone who was expressing their wishes towards us. “I anxiously await the day that the couple who wrote “Bullet-proof Marriage” file for divorce.”

Perhaps it’s just another irreverent comment among the many others that flood the social network. Perhaps the author was just trying to call attention. Perhaps their brain wasn’t totally awake at the hour that they posted this.

But one question doesn’t want to be quieted: Why such a hateful comment towards those who are fighting against divorce? It’s like someone wishing that a heart surgeon, who dedicated his whole life to saving lives, die from a heart attack. Or that a firefighter gets burned to death.

There are things we shouldn’t play with. Such as the marriage or divorce of others for example. Perhaps the author has never experienced the consequences of a divorce in the family – or perhaps they have, and that’s why they’re full of hatred in such a way.

A happy marriage seems to irritate people now-a-days. It’s not the first time that Cristiane and I suffer this type of attack. And it won’t be the last. But we don’t hold grudges of any kind. We are not here to defend our marriage or punish these people. The reason why we highlighted this fact is to make you lucid of how much you need to bullet-proof your marriage as well. If we have people who hope that our marriage ends, what about you? Could you be among the most perverse, selfish, and envious desires of someone? Could you also have people amongst your family members, work colleagues, friends or those of your spouse/fiancé/boyfriend – or even strangers who visit the photos of the both of you in social networks – who think and hope this type of thing:

• I hope they split up
• Her husband is my type
• How I wish I could take his wife to bed
• Her husband probably hits her so she learns her lesson
• If only he would die, I would be the first in line to get his wife
• She doesn’t deserve such a good boyfriend, I’m much better than her
• They’re just dating, there’s still a chance that he will end up with me… I just have to intensify my charm
• If I just get pregnant with his child, he’s leave his wife and stay with me
• I can’t let such a good catch get away, the fact that he’s married doesn’t matter.
• I hope she ends up an old maid

It makes me sick just to write this list, but the truth is that it’s much worse. I can’t even write certain thoughts and wishes that we’ve heard and seen. The truth is that these people exist and can be closer than you can imagine. Don’t be naïve. There are people who are so unhappy that their only happiness is to see as miserable as they are.

That’s why you need to Bullet-proof your marriage. And this is not something that you do only once. Those who have a bullet-proof car know that the protection expires. Bullet-proofing your marriage is something done daily, because we never know when or from where we will receive an attack. You, and only you, are responsible for this. Your partner as well, of course, but it always starts with one. Just because he or she is leaving their guard down doesn’t mean that you have to lower yours. This only means you have to fight twice as hard.

In a list below, here’s some reinforcements to help you in this fight.  These are all the weapons available to you, so that you overcome. Use them. The enemy will surely use his.

• Read the book Bullet-proof Marriage — your marriage divorce-proof
• Fight using your weapons of faith through the Love Therapy at a Universal
• Read this blog and all the messages related to relationships
• Read The V-woman and Better than a new pair of shoes written by Cristiane
• If you’re a woman, follow her blog
• If you’re a, real, man take part in the IntelliMen Challenge

For now I think that’s it. But our arsenal will grow with time, you can be sure of that. And those who hope we get divorced will have to just see our death first.

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