In almost every language, expressing our apologies for one’s mistakes involves feelings.

I’m sorry. Sinto muito. Lo siento. Je suis désolé.

But when someone wrongs you once or constantly does, you don’t accept that expression anymore. On the contrary, hearing their voice is enough to make you feel like punching them. (You’ll say you’re “sorry,” afterwards.)

For me, this is one of the biggest indicators that love is not feelings. Love is to do the right thing for the person you love. It is to be fair in your actions. It is to give what’s due to the person.

This is why when a husband lies, cheats, or makes a mess of things, the “I’m sorry” he tells his wife is worthless. The same thing applies to her when she uses these words, but the following day does the same thing over again. It would be better to swallow the words and just change. Fixing a mistake requires actions.

Does love include feelings? Yes. After all, when we are blessed and everything is going well, we feel very happy. True love produces good feelings, but love is not feelings in itself.

It’s interesting that those who fool themselves with sentimental “love” – something based on words, flowers, trips and sex – are usually the ones who end up having to swallow a lot of “I’m sorry” from the person they say they “love.”

If you love, do what’s right and fair towards the person you love.

If someone says they love you, don’t go by words. Analyze if their actions towards you are good and fitting; and if they’re done at their own cost.

Otherwise, run away from that person.

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