Nobody marries out of hate. Everybody marries out of love. At least that’s what they say. I have never heard of anyone who hated somebody so much that they wanted to marry him or her. So, if one hundred percent of marriages are made out of love, why do over fifty percent of them end up in divorce?

There can be many reasons, but one thing will always be true: Emotional love can’t survive marriage; only intelligent love can.

Emotional love is limited to feelings, good experiences, and sensations. “He makes me feel so special… I’m sure he’s going to be a good husband.” “She is so beautiful… That’s the kind of wife I’ve always wanted to have.”

Intelligent love looks beyond feelings. It uses reason, not emotion, to choose a partner for life. And when marriage problems come, intelligent love deals with and solves them using — you guessed it — intelligence.

Only intelligent love can say, “He makes me feel so special, but I can’t trust him because sometimes he lies. It’s not going to work. I’m breaking it up.” “She’s beautiful, but she often puts her family before me. She’s trouble. I can’t marry someone like that.”

Only intelligent love can look at a marriage problem with a cool eye, resist the emotional reactions, and do what it takes to solve it.

Intelligent love produces true, healthy feelings, but are never subject to them. Emotional love depends on feelings and thinks they are love itself.

Want to be happy in love?

Use your head, not your heart.