When you have expectations in mind but in reality something else happens, you’re going to end up getting frustrated. Sexual dissatisfaction is one of the biggest frustrations amongst couples. One of the main reasons for these frustrations are the very expectations that misinformed couples have in regards to their sex life.

The majority of day to day information that surrounds us about sex comes from films, soap operas, reality shows, men and woman’s magazines, music, the internet, and conversations in bars or in a circle of friends. If only it was good information, it would be great. But unfortunately, the reality is that we deal with a tsunami of false information, distorted, and ignorant to what really makes a person sexually satisfied.

“I grabbed her here and there…” “We went to the back seat…” “The children went to sleep and we did it on top of the fridge…”

And so many things I hear out there that if I didn’t know any better, I’d think that these people were having more fun than my wife and I.

What many don’t know is that the most sensual organ of the man and woman is not below the waist. There is a gland in our brain called the pituitary gland that is responsible for sexual stimulation. Much before your genital organs come into action, the excitement begins in the mind.

That’s why the secret to a successful sex life is not in doing gymnastics in bed, pole dancing, watching porn together, or wasting tons of money with lingerie or erotic toys.

The bed — not the stove, the car, the floor — is without a doubt the most comfortable place for a couple, especially for a woman.

What sets the tone for pleasure in a woman is for the man to be a caring gentleman who’s attentive to her the whole day – unlike towards any other woman. What sets the tone for a man is for the woman to be respectful toward him, make him feel he’s her hero, and show desire toward him.

The fact is that many couples don’t invest in their day to day relationship and still expect a wonderful night of sex, which is more than likely to end in a horrible fight…

Beware of the information you receive about sex. It creates expectations inside of you. If they’re bad or contrary to what really excites your husband or wife, you could start to get really frustrated in your marriage.

A better alternative: be each others lover. Forget about what others are doing in bed, focus on your partner. Talk. Discover each other. And treat each other well every day.

It’s much easier than what they say out there.