Your greatest fear took place. Your wife or husband cheated on you. The pain is overwhelming. Your thoughts are racing a mile a minute. But no matter how hard what I’m about to say may seem, it’s of the utmost importance that you follow these steps to the end, so that the situation doesn’t escalate.

If you’re going through the pain of betrayal, read these five steps closely:

1. After finding out, don’t take any drastic decisions. Your emotions are flying off the handle, and may persuade you to do something you may regret later on. Anger, hatred, feeling vengeful, and other emotions based on pain, are terrible combinations when you need to make decisions. Wait for the emotional hurricane to pass. Don’t worry, it will surely pass.
2. After recuperating from the emotional shock, rationally evaluate everything that happened. What were the circumstances that contributed to the betrayal? What can you learn from this episode? Was your partner being weak, a victim to circumstances and their own human weaknesses, or was it just a display of bad character?
3. Decide if you’re going to give your partner another chance or if you’re going to separate, even if temporarily, until new conditions are met. It’s a hard decision, but crucial. Weigh the situation well. If necessary, find someone you respect to give you some impartial advice. This can help you to look at the situation from a different perspective.
4. If you decide to start over, there can be no doubts in regards to the terms. A change in actions and behavior must take place, perhaps on both sides. What will your partner have to do differently? And what about you? What will you do if the situation doesn’t change, if the lies continue? Have a plan B. Once again agree on conditions, act upon them and leave the past behind.
5. Starting over is optional, but forgiving is unconditional. You have to find the strength to forgive, so you’re not a mental prisoner to what happened.

You should also count on faith for help. Nothing like someone who was betrayed and overcame to understand your pain and help you out. I’m talking about the Lord Jesus Himself, who was betrayed by one of His closest disciples, Judas. When you go through hard moments, you don’t need to be religious to receive help, comfort, and spiritual direction on what steps to take. Right from where you are, you can speak to Him, open your heart, cry, ask Him why, ask for strength and direction on what to do next. Try it out, you’ll see results.

It’s not easy to deal with betrayal, but if you take these steps it’s possible to overcome.

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