There is a myth going around among singles. It says that there is almost nobody single, that most people who are “good for marriage” are already married. The truth is quite different from that.

In the U.S. for example, the number of singles over 16 years old is around 124.6 million, which makes up for more than half of the country’s adult population. This number has never been so substantial since the government started compiling such statistics in 1976. In other words, there has never been more people available for a relationship in America than now. The situation is similar in Brazil, the UK and other countries.

Clearly, the problem of singles is not the lack of people. The problem is the lack of faith in people.

With each passing day, people are losing faith in one another. They’ve been finding it hard to believe and to trust someone. And rightly so. With so many disappointments, cheating, divorce and shamelessness we’ve seen around, our first reaction is to be suspicious of whom we do not know.

Hence, the root of the problem: you cannot trust whom you do not know. Trust requires knowledge. You must know, through reliable sources and means, that the person is worthy of having a relationship with you and, in the future, worthy of your love and total surrender.

However, people today are not investing in the main thing: getting to know the other person and themselves.

Getting to know the other person: is it possible to know someone through Facebook? Can you know a person just by what he speaks about himself? Have you been looking for references about that person from people who know him or her well enough or have you trusted only in his/her beautiful words? Have you taken enough time to know someone before jumping into bed or moving in together with him/her? If you do not know the other person well enough, you will probably not be able to trust. And if you blindly trust, you will probably be disappointed.

Getting to know yourself: On the other hand, are you a trustworthy person? If a potential candidate to a relationship with you would search through your life or had x-ray vision about everything regarding you, would he or she be able to trust you? Have you already learned the lessons with your previous failed relationships? When someone gets close to you, are you open and sincere about who you really are? What kind of references would your friends, relatives and colleagues give about you?

Singles who want to overcome loneliness and find someone worthy of sharing a life together, must know that their worst enemy is the lack of trust among people. Therefore, they must invest in getting to know the possible candidates well, and also become people worthy of trust.

Forget about the myth. Deal with the truth.

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