For those who are single, each day that passes makes it more difficult to resist the pressures and temptations to rush into a poorly considered relationship. “You’re not getting any younger, are you? When are you going to get married?” “So, things didn’t work out right with so and so? Man, you have no luck…”

And to top it off, you have all those Hollywood productions promoting one-night stands and disposable relationships as the most normal thing in the world. All this inevitably tempts singles to think, “I must be the only person in the world who doesn’t have anyone.”

Lies. Your mind knows it is.

Your heart on the other hand, makes you believe that’s the truth.

Very well. Here is what I would do if I were single today:

1. I would stop comparing – I am who I am, you are who you are and Charlie Sheen is… himself. No one is the same. Why then compare your life to other people’s? Comparison is a source of much anxiety and frustration. Be yourself and don’t worry about others. If your best friend is getting married, good for her. Her happiness does not need to be your sorrow, neither should it make you rush into marriage just so you won’t get “left behind”.

2. I’d Invest in myself – If I want to attract a good catch, I need to be one. Besides, when I invest in me, I learn to value myself. Those who have high self-esteem will not accept to be used or treated in just any way. They won’t settle for just anyone.

3. I would only like someone who my mind approves of – The heart does not think, it only feels. And because of these emotions, many get married and then divorce. Therefore, before allowing my heart to develop feelings for someone, I would use my intelligence to choose the right person whose characteristics are compatible with mine. If the person doesn’t pass this test of intelligence, my heart would be forbidden to like her. And, that’s it.

4. I would go up to the person – Using my mind and not my heart, if a potential candidate appears, I would go to her instead of waiting for her to come to me. (I would do the same if I were a woman; it’s a matter of my own faith.) We would talk, see if there was a future, and if I saw it didn’t, I would be sincere and just cut it off. Life is too short to deceive yourself and others.

5. I would run to the Best Matchmaker of all – God. After all, it was He who created me this way, with a need to have another half. So I would throw the problem back to Him. I would do like Abraham when he looked for a wife for his son Isaac. Bulls-eye. You can’t miss. In the end, true love is born out of faith. That’s why, faith is the most certain way to find the person that will make you happy. That would be my guarantee.

There, I said it.