I want to talk to you who have difficulty dealing with people and forming friendships. Some people are always having problems with others, to the point where they close down and say, “You know what? I don’t want to know about friendships anymore, I’ll mind my own business”. What could be happening?

The first thing to note is that no one can get along with everyone. Even the Lord Jesus couldn’t get everyone to like Him (and He wasn’t looking for that either). It was natural for those who wanted the truth (it was fair, correct), to identify with Him. And those who didn’t want to had the desire to kill Him (as, in fact, ended up happening). No one gets along with everyone. Sometimes for different personalities or different goals. Nobody will change that.

But, there are two mistakes a person can make. The first is that sometimes you want to please people too much to get them to like you. Everyone wants to be loved, but it’s too much with you. Perhaps, something that happened in your past caused you to be marked by a sense of rejection. You are too focused on people liking you. Then you try to please too much. However, instead of people liking you, what will happen is that they will avoid you. The Bible itself advises us on this: “Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house; lest he become weary of you, and hate you” (Proverbs 25:17). We have to be more sensible.

On the other hand, some demand that others please them. They want people to do things their way. When a person wants to make others their image and likeness it is as if they had a God complex. They think they are perfect and that their way is the only right. Do you think someone like that will have a good relationship with people? Not. If you are a leader and have a team, make sure you are not making any of these mistakes.

I know hearing this hurts. Being confronted and hearing the truth hurts. But we have to evaluate ourselves and see if our results are bad. The world is not going to mould itself to me and I don’t have to try to please the whole world, but I must have the ability to relate to the people that are part of my life. Think about it and follow the video.