Don’t start before completing Challenge #3
Challenge: Make time for a family member and do something he or she likes.
Explanation: IntelliMen are family men. Recognizing the value of family is essential to living well with those near you. However, let’s be honest, there are some family members we wish we didn’t have. Your strange uncle, for example. Or the cousin who behaves like she never left middle school… Sometimes our family can be a complicated business. And yet, for this task we are not going to target the hardest to reach — trying to win over a family member who wouldn’t want to see you even if you were the last person on earth. Instead, let’s think of a family member close to us, or a friend who is “closer than a brother” in case you don’t have a family member nearby. Let’s take some time to do something with him or for him, that he likes. It could be your wife, mother, father, brother, grandmother, sister, son — a person who will appreciate your gesture and time, someone who maybe doesn’t receive this type of attention on a normal basis.
Your grandmother might not have left her house to do something she likes in years. If you know she likes flowers and gardens, what about taking her out to a Botanical Garden in your city?
I can already hear busy IntelliMen saying, “ I don’t have time for this.” You might not be able to spend four or five hours with a family member over the next couple of days, but you could find an hour to have lunch with your father, or 30 minutes to help your son with his homework. Go out to the cinema and watch a movie your wife wants to see (If cinema is out because you’re too busy or too cheap, at least snuggle up on the sofa and watch a movie or a TV show she likes). Or you could clean up the mess in the garage that your father has asked you to help him with since 2010.
Register the occasion: Take a picture of the two of you “in the act.” Who knows, you could even send the photo to this person with a nice comment: “I really enjoyed spending time with you at……..”
Official Partner: This challenge will not be done with your Official Partner, unless he is that family member. But you could speak together and come up with ideas of how to complete the challenge with the person you’ve chosen. Then, you could share with each other how the experience went.
Time period: Try to complete this task within a week. You might need to let the other person know immediately so they can fit it in with their schedule.
Post: After – and only after – you complete the task, post how the experience went along with a PHOTO of both of you doing the challenge, on the IntelliMen Facebook or Twitter page, (not on your own page) and write the following:
IntelliMen Challenge #4 done: … (finish it with your own words, speak about the photo)
☐ Identify the family member
☐ I did something he liked
☐ I spoke to my Partner about the challenge
☐ I posted the picture on Facebook/Twitter
P.S We added some more answers to the FAQ’s page about the IntelliMen Project.