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Challenge: Use others people’s negativity as fuel to get what you want.
Explanation: You may already know the story of the real Carl Brashear, the first black man to became a Master Diver for the US Navy. He was the main character of the film “Men of Honor,” based on his true story. If you haven’t seen this film, do yourself a favor and rent it, find it on Netflix or search for it on the Internet, and then set aside two hours to watch it. (Here is a link to the movie. It’s working at the moment.) No IntelliMan should go without watching this film. The trailer is above.
There are a great many lessons in this movie, but one of the main lessons is how Carl Brashear used discrimination as energy to conquer what he wanted. Instead of looking at himself as a victim, or hating his attackers, he transformed their rejection of him into self-strength and motivation. He outsmarted his enemies because he used their weapons to his favor.
As a man, you have to learn to do the same thing. In this world, people are going to react to you in a negative way, at times it will be very intense. Some people go through discrimination because of their skin color, others because of their race, others because of their faith, others because of their appearance, and still others because of their limited education… There’s no limit to discrimination. Have you ever suffered discrimination? Have you been treated unjustly because of other people’s prejudices? If you have, you understand a little bit of what Carl Brashear went through.
In light of all this, your challenge this week is to identify a dream or desire that was stolen or killed because of the prejudices and negativity of others. What people said, thought, or did to you made you give up on your dream. Do you still want to see your dream come true? Is it worth the effort, the fighting, the sacrifice? If so, rescue it, resurrect your dream and use others’ negativity as fuel.
Of course, your main objective should not be to prove anything to anyone, but to do something for yourself. You should pursuit a dream that’s important to you, forget about competition and vengeance.
In addition, from this challenge on, every time you encounter rejection from anyone, use it as energy to spur you on to victory.
Notebook: Take a couple minutes to reflect on this challenge. Identify a dream that you can still get excited about, even though it was drowned by the negativity of people who said you couldn’t do it. Write down the dream in your notebook. You may have more than one – feel free to write down as many as you like. But in the end, choose one, and start working on it.
Official Partner: Motivate your partner to pursuit his dream.
Deadline: You may begin working on this challenge immediately and complete it in a week, then you may proceed to Challenge #31. Achieving your dream may take years, but take the first step now!
IntelliMen Challenge #30 done: From now on, I will use every bit of negativity I receive from others as strength to pursuit my dreams.
☐ I watched the film “Men of Honor”
☐ I identified the negativity I suffered from others
☐ I wrote it down in my notebook and took the first step in pursuit of my dream, this week
☐ My partner and I spoke about the challenge
☐ I posted my comments on Facebook/Twitter
“Why do you want this so much?” Carl Brashear’s girlfriend asked. Carl answered: “Because they said I couldn’t do it.”