While you make an effort to change only to have your partner back, as soon as you do, your motivation will finish and in a few days the old behavior will resurface.
The partner will feel deceived (once again) and skeptical of your future promises.
For any change to be true and long-lasting, its motivation has to be in wanting to change for yourself, not for your partner or anybody else. When all your strength is focused on this, regardless of what happens in your relationship, your change will be real. And the chances of reconquering your partner too.
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